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Book List

Listed below are recommended readings for anytime during your family journey. These readings may make a difference in your relationship between you and your child, spouse/partner, friends, and others.

 

Top 7 Books to Read

1. The Knight in Rusty Armor, by Robert Fisher
2. The Anatomy of Peace: Resolving the Heart of Conflict, by The Arbinger Institute
3. Parallel Process, by Krissy Pozatek
4. I Don't Have to Make Everything All Better, by Gary and Joy Lundberg
5. Leadership and Self-Deception, by The Arbinger Institue
6. Not by Chance, by Tim Thayne
7. Journey of the Heroic Parent, by Brad Reedy

General

The Four Agreements: Toltec Wisdom. A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom
By Don Miguel Ruiz

The Anatomy of Peace, Resolving the Heart of Conflict
By The Arbinger Institute

Facing Codependency: What It Is, Where It Comes From, How It Sabotages Our Lives
By Pia Mellody

Breaking Free: A Recovery Workbook For Facing Codependency
By Pia Mellody

Facing Love Addiction: Giving Yourself The Power To Change The Way You Love
By Pia Mellody

The Intimacy Factor: The Ground Rules For Overcoming Obstacles To Truth, Respect & Lasting Love
By Pia Mellody

Man’s Search for Meaning
By Viktor Frankl

You Mean I’m Not Lazy, Stupid or Crazy?
(For adults with ADD)
By Kate Kelly

The ADHD Effect on Marriage: Understand and Rebuild Your Relationship in Six Steps
By Melissa Orlov

Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy
By David Burns

Living in the Comfort Zone: The Gift of Boundaries in Relationships
By Rokelle Lerner

I Don't Have to Make Everything All Better
By Gary and Joy Lundberg

Addict in the Family: Stories of Loss, Hope, and Recovery
By Beverley Conyers

Love First: A New Approach to Intervention
By Jeff and Debra Jay

Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself
By Melody Beattie

Born for Love
By Maia Szalavitz and Bruce D. Perry, MD, PhD

 

Understanding our children/teens, their minds and their choices, and also addressing general parenting issues

BRAINSTORM, the Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain
By Daniel J. Siegel

To Change a Mind: Parenting to Promote Maturity in Teenagers
By John A. McKinnon, MD

An Unchanged Mind: The Problem of Immaturity in Adolescence
By John A. McKinnon, MD

The Mirror Effect: How Celebrity Narcissism is Seducing America
By  Drew Pinsky

Chaos to Connection
By Vive
Order through www.vivenow.com

Getting to Calm: Cool Headed Strategies for Parenting Teens and Tweens
By Laura Kastner

Stupid Things Parents Do to Mess up Their Kids: Don't Have Them if You Won't Raise Them
by Dr. Laura Schlessinger

Yes, Your Teen is Crazy
By Michael J. Bradley, Ed. D.

Embracing Persephone: How to Be the Mother You Want for the Daughter You Cherish
By Virginia Beane Rutter

Parenting your Teen with Love and Logic
By Foster Cline and Jim Fay

Brave Parenting
By Krissy Pozatek

Listening is an Act of Love: A Celebration of American Life from the StoryCorps Project
By Dave Isay

How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success
By Julie Lythcott-Haims

Parenting from the Inside Out: How a Deeper Self-Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive
By Daniel J. Siegel and Mary Hartzell

The Gift of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Sepposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are
By Brene Brown

 

Family crisis and the journey parents and adolescents undertake

Come Back: A Mother and Daughter's Journey to Hell and Back
By Claire Fontaine and Mia Fontaine

The Lost Years: Surviving A Mother and Daughter's Worst Nightmare
By Kristina Wandzilak and Constance Curry

Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Addiction
By David Sheff

Broken: My Story of Addiction and Redemption
By William Cope Moyers and Katherine Ketcham

Saving Jake, One Family's Story of Addiction
By D'Anne Burwell

Stay Close
By Libby Cataldi

Bouncing Back
By Linda Graham

 

When your child leaves for wilderness, therapeutic boarding school, or other treatment facility (out of home placement)

What Now: How Teen Therapeutic Programs Could Save Your Troubled Child
By Paul Case and John A. McKinnon, MD

Letting Go of Shame
By Ronald and Patricia Potter

The Parallel Process: Growing Alongside Your Adolescent or Young Adult Child in Treatment
By Krissy Pozatek

Shouting at the Sky: Troubled Teens and the Promise of the Wild
By Gary Ferguson

Not by Chance
By Tim Thayne
(Includes transitioning your child back home)

 

Female-focused

The Female Brain
By Louann Brizendine

Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls
By Mary Pipher

The Disappearing Girl: Learning the Language of Teenage Depression
By Lisa Machoian

Come Back: A Mother and Daughter's Journey to Hell and Back
By Claire Fontaine and Mia Fontaine

The Lost Years: Surviving a Mother and Daughter's Worst Nightmare
By Kristina Wandzilak and Constance Curry

The Dance of Intimacy: A Woman's Guide to Courageous Acts of Change in Key Relationships
By Harriet Lerner

Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions into Adulthood
By Lisa Damour

 

Adoption - personal development

Attachment-Focused Family Therapy
By Daniel A. Hughes

Beneath the Mask: Understanding Adopted Teens
By Debbie Riley and John E. Meeks

Being Adopted
By David M. Brodzinsky

Coming Home to Self: The Adopted Child Grows Up
By Nancy Newton Verrier

Journey of the Adopted Self: A Quest for Wholeness
By Betty Jean Lifton

Parenting the Hurt Child: Helping Adoptive Families Heal and Grow
By Gregory  C. Keck and Regina Kupecky

The Primal Wound: Understanding the Adopted Child
By Nancy Verrier

Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew
By Sherrie Eldridge

20 Things Adoptive Parents Need to Succeed: Discover the Unique Need of Your Adopted Child and Become the Best Parent You Can
By Sherrie Eldridge

Understanding Human Development and Attachment: Born for Love
By Maia Szalavitz and Bruce D. Perry, MD, PhD